Families Change Guide to Separation & Divorce

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Strategies

When your parents split up, you will probably find yourself having to deal with all kinds of new situations. This section gives you some strategies for dealing with them.

You'll find a list of your rights and responsibilities, and your parents' responsibilities, as well as tips on:

  • How and when to speak up.
  • What to do if you're caught in the middle.
  • What to do if there is violence in your home.
  • What to do in some other situations.

Q & A

Q:
Do I have to take sides, or choose one parent over the other?
A:

No, you don't. You have the right to love and be loved by both parents.

If you are feeling pressured to take sides, and you feel you are caught in the middle of your parents' problems, tell them.

Q:
What will my friends say when they find out?
A:

Lots of teens worry about breaking the news to their friends. But separation and divorce are very common these days.

Good friends will be glad you've told them. You're still you, even though your family is changing.

Q:
I have so many questions. How much can I ask my parents?
A:

If there are things you need to know, ask. You have a right to ask questions about what is going to happen and why.