A common mistake parents make in a separation or divorce is involving their children in any dispute they may be having. To make sure you are keeping your children out of any conflict, do not:
Remember, the problems between you and the other parent must be dealt with by the two of you directly. Listen to your children when they work up the courage to tell you that they don't want to get involved. Also, when struggling with an issue surrounding the separation or divorce, it can help to mentally take a step back and consider whether you are putting your children in the middle of the dispute.
Caught in the Middle in the Teen Guide and Getting Unstuck in the Kids Guide offer advice to children about what they can do if they are stuck in the middle of their parents' conflict. Parents will also benefit by reading through this material to become aware of how kids may feel in this situation.